"Lie" by Sasha Alex Sloan, Tuesday, October 4, 2022
The first single form Sasha Alex Sloan's debut record Only Child, "Lie," continues to reveal the singer-songwriter as a voice of truth, even if the truth hurts a little. Sloan said in a Newsletter that the song came from a relationship that for the last two years turned into apathy. She said that while he worked a steady job, but she would stay at home, eventually starting to spend a lot of time on the Internet, talking to strangers during the day when her boyfriend was at work and after he went to bed. This unhealthy relationship fell apart, and Sloan met and started dating the producer of Only Child Henry Allen, better known as King Henry.
TOUCH ME LIKE THERE ISN'T SOMETHING MISSING. There are some interesting statistic to read about lying. Some surveys say that 7% of all communication is lying and 90% of all lies are white lies. Another survey showed that Americans tell four lies every day on average. But because all of the statistics are based on surveys, can we be sure that these people aren't lying about their lies? We often think of white lies as innocuous. But I'm still a bit traumatized about my mom, Sabbath school teachers, and pastors saying that lying is the one sin that God hates the most. The pastor said that the one thing that God would never do is tell a lie. Except for the time that he God sent a "lying spirit" to deceive Ahab (1 Kings 22:22). When you're growing up in a church that says that it's the only true church and that every other religion and denomination is based on a lie and that only their church is based on sincere Biblical scholarship you tend to believe that church members and the theology is honest. And there were all the hypotheticals: what if you're trying to save someone's life, like in the case of Corrie Ten Boom's family hiding Jews from Nazis. Rather than telling a lie, the family told the truth which sounded so crazy to the Nazis that the immediately left.
I REALLY CAN'T GET MY HEART BROKEN TONIGHT. While "Lie" sounds like it could be coming from Sasha Alex Sloan's perspective, and it very well might be, it also sounds true of her boyfriend. However, dishonesty in a relationship is a major reason for a break up. Secret addictions, cheating, financial indiscretions, all begin with a lie. And if we grew up watching any sitcoms at all, we know that lie builds on lie until it gets out of control. But like Michael W. Smith reminds us, "Life ain't the Brady Bunch." The out-of-control lying doesn't get laughed off in some rushed moral and next week another unrelated issue appears. No, a long-term relationship is at least a half-season on Grey's Anatomy or something as equally dramatic. There was only one lie that was sanctioned by youth group leaders and that was the answer to "does this make me look fat?" from a girlfriend or wife. The answer is a categorical no. But if most white lies are told out of protecting the other person's feelings, most of the time, no harm done. However, in Sloan's case, lying became a tool to protect a relationship that had expired. When we start having to wager if the security of our relationships is worth the thrill of deceiving that person, the relationship is truly in danger. Heartbreak seems inevitable, but we can lie to ourselves and say that nothing's wrong.
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