"Blind" by Lifehouse, Sunday, May 16, 2021

 

It's been 20 years since the post-grunge "Hanging By a Moment" was the number 1 song of the year. Although the Christian Rock band Lifehouse never actually topped the weekly charts, the song had so much statistical force via radio play and record sales that the song became one of rare cases when a single that peaked at number 2 could actually claim the number 1 position for the year. No Name Face featured three singles, but none were as big as "Hanging By a Moment." For the band's follow up, Lifehouse signed a Christian music marketing deal with Sparrow Records. Stanley Climbfall was no where near as successful as the No Name Face, but a sophomore slump didn't plunge the band into obscurity. In 2005, the band released their self-titled album which boasted their number one hit which was appearing in every TV show that year, the prom/wedding favorite, "You and Me." 

I WAS YOUNG BUT I WASN'T NAIVE. "Blind," the band's second single, was overshadowed by the massive first hit, just as the other singles from No Name Face. But while the wedding and prom industry needs new songs every year and "You and Me" is a rather fine choice, the brooding "Blind" delves into lead singer Jason Wade's childhood and his parents' divorce. The music video stars actress Tina Majorino, best known for her role as Deb in Napoleon Dynamite, who acts as a goth chick browbeaten by her womanizing father. Majorino's character seems to act as a foil to Wade. When the band is playing in the goth chick's room, Wade and the girl make knowing eye contact for a moment. Interestingly, the normally no-frills Jason Wade is seen in this video wearing eye liner, or sometimes called guy-liner, a trend that punk and emo groups rocked at this time. Some examples were Green Day and My Chemical Romance. Lifehouse was far from being the dark emo band, but "Blind" was one of their darker songs. Furthermore, Lifehouse in the video seems to represent the role that music plays in escaping childhood/teenage trauma. For one of their biggest Christian Rock hits, Lifehouse didn't make a moralizing video, but rather when the father is out on his infidelity escapades, the daughter throws a party where everyone dances to Lifehouse and she kisses a boy. And from this party she comes to the clarity that it's time to leave her father's house. 

I WOULD FALL ASLEEP ONLY IN HOPES OF DREAMING THAT EVERYTHING WOULD BE LIKE IT WAS BEFORE. My mom always scolded me for watching music videos, so as soon as she went out, I'd watch TVU, Fuse, and whatever other music channel wasn't playing reality TV. Every time this video came on my sister and I would yell "It's Deb!" When I was growing up my parents fought constantly. I remember going to bed to the sound of their fighting some nights. My parents told us that they made a commitment to marriage so they would not get a divorce. My mom's parents had divorced, and it probably left a lot of emotional scars. But I secretly wanted my parents to divorce. Maybe it would solve the bitter arguments. For years I blamed my parents for distorting marriage. I told myself, if this is marriage, I don't want it. My parents are still married, but live very separate lives. They live in the same house but on opposite sides. They work different schedules. They spend time together, but too much time sets them off on each other. I've let a lot of it go since I've been away from my family. I think that my parents let go of their childhood trauma in a similar way once they moved away from it. Maybe we're not really over it, but at least there was the music to help me through it.

Read the lyrics on Genius.